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January 19, 2012

A New Beginning….and an ending….

As of today, my new website Euphoria Life Design Studio is up and running.  From now on I’ll be blogging there, and will gradually move over most, if not all of my content from here.  For those of you who are subscribed to my blog here- THANK YOU!  If you are an email subscriber, you will continue to get updates through my weekly newsletter- I have automatically forwarded you over.  If you are a wordpress subscriber and wish to continue getting updates, head on over to the new site and enter your email in the box on the lower right…. then make sure to click on the opt-in link in the email you receive!  If you are an email subscriber and wish to unsubscribe, you can do so through the links on the first email newsletter I send.

I have many cool plans for the new site, including a free download and eventually some group coaching, subscription, and telecourse offerings.  However, as I’m a part-time mompreneur, these will be rolling out gradually over the year.  It is my intent that as many people as possible can benefit from what I offer for free- so while I will make offers, I absolutely welcome you to enjoy my site in whatever way most appeals to you.

Please do share the site with those you love- through Facebook and Twitter, “like” Euphoria Life Design Studio on Facebook, and follow me on Twitter.

Thank you once again!

Lesley

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January 4, 2012

2012- The Year of Euphoria

Euphoria: a feeling of well-being or elation (Merriam-Webster)

Yep. That’s it. My defining word for 2012. My Word of the Year.

Why, you may ask? Because I think it’s high time we decide that feeling awesome is not only okay, it’s our birthright. Psychology defines much of our emotional spectrum as innapropriate and disordered, which makes me wonder- are we supposed to simply feel “okay” most of the time? I tend to think that if we simply feel “okay”- neutral, blank, mildly good or bad- while it’s certainly preferrential to suffering or misery, we could be doing so much better. That’s what life coaching is about. It’s about creating lives that are more than “okay”. And when at approximately 9pm on November 1, 2011 I was overcome with this profound sense of wellness, of being exactly my most content and joyous and authentic self, I realized that euphoria was the perfect word for it. My goal.

The funny thing is that euphoria doesn’t work as a goal. Euphoria just is. I’ve realized that when I’m being my truest, most honest, at my very essence self and when what I’m doing is in alignment with who I really am, with my deepest intentions and purpose- BAM- there it is. Euphoria. Considering that it is a goal of mine to live fully as myself and to my deepest purpose (and to help others do this as well) it seems to me that euphoria is an excellent reference point. Euphoria is when I know who I’m being and what I’m doing is my right life. I’m pretty sure it’s not just me either, because I’ve been surrounded by whole tribes full of people living elated lives and they seem to be experiencing the same thing.

In fact, I’m so in love with this concept that I’m creating my coaching practice around it. Later this month I’ll be launching Euphoria Life Design Studio (you can “like” my facebook page here) with a new website. And a newsletter. And a totally fun playful offering of crazy-ass self-love (yours, not mine…. that would just be weird….) And I’ll be moving my blogging there. And I’ll have a toolbox full of resources (eventually). And a guide to my services. Stay tuned.

I have other guiding words this year (selected through Laurie Foley’s awesome Planning Kitchen offering), as well as a guiding animal (inspired by the awesome book What the Walrus Knows by Sarah Bamford Seidelmann, who has inspired me to reconnect with the meaning within my love of animals- and the ones that show up for me over and over again.). More on those in the coming weeks as I prep the new site!

I’d love to hear about your most recent or profound experience of euphoria in the comments. Has it been too long since you’ve been that awesome?

Until next week,

Lesley

ps. I do prefer to write slightly meatier posts (though hopefully they aren’t dry or tough!) however I’m keeping to “light snacks” for the next few weeks. I am also making a truly awesome “pay what you wish to invest in yourself” coaching offer available until the launch of the new site. Check it out here. Much love and thanks….and please share the euphoria using the links below!

December 6, 2011

The Gift of Permission

Your permission slipWhen I first considered what gift I’d like to give myself this year, permission was the first word to come to mind. What do I want permission for? To be more of a thriving creative force in the world. To do work that excites and fulfills me. To stop being critical of myself and seeing criticism in the words and actions of others. I am the only person who can give me permission for these things.

But why permission? There’s a formality to permission. A granting from an authoritative source. My generation, and those before it, have been trained deeply to look to an authority, someone who knows a great deal about a subject, someone who others also look to for information and guidance in that area. And the fact is that you are the best and absolute authority on you. Only you know your private thoughts and your inner workings. Only you truly know your greatest joys and fears. Only you know what is best for you.

Granting yourself permission is not only allowing yourself that thing that you want, it is declaring authority over your own life. There is no single more powerful thing you can do for yourself. Even if today you’re only granting yourself permission to take a walk in the woods, an extra long hot bath, or half an hour to release your inner artist. Giving yourself permission is empowerment.

So, what will you give yourself permission for today? For the holidays? For the new year and the rest of your life? Let me know in the comments!  Do you know someone who would benefit from giving themselves this gift?  Share the love. (links are right below!)

May 28, 2011

The awesome of introverts (and extroverts too)

I’ve been having a funny experience of my own introversion this week.  Right now I’m happy as a clam to curl up in my shell and just be- in solitude, able to dip down into my well and refill my cup, to be refreshed and to live largely below the surface.  I’m also noticing the voice of my social self- that part of me that’s out to please others with little regard for how I’m really feeling- and how it keeps telling me that there’s something wrong with wanting to feel refreshed and fulfilled, that it’s weird that being alone is fulfilling for me, that others will be displeased with me if I choose to pass on social events or small talk, and that I have no business wanting solitude because I’ve chosen to be the parent of three children.  My social self can be quite judgmental.

I began to ask myself what is awesome about being an introvert?  How do introverts give back to the world in ways that perhaps extroverts do not? (though of course extroverts have their own gifts… I just don’t know what that’s like, being an introvert and all…)  In my moodling on this I made the mistake of doing a Google search.  What I found was that even on sites that intended to extoll the virtues of introversion, I was bombarded with negative assumptions I hadn’t even considered.   Talk about sending that social self voice on a field day?  I hadn’t even realized all the horrors we introverts are inflicting upon ourselves and the world- OMG, WE MUST CHANGE NOW!  Just kidding.  I closed my browser toute de suite.  This was not what I had in mind at all. Luckily I found my answer after a few minutes of quiet contemplation (just like an introvert, ya know?).

For introverts, recognizing that we’re energized by solitude and deep relationships gives us the chance to provide ourselves with this gift.  When we work within this nature, knowing how to fill our sails and fuel our passions, we are best able to step out into the world and share our gifts.  We can also share our passions in an introverted way, by working alone then sending our creations out into the world or by sharing them with just one person at a time.  When we don’t give ourselves full permission to replenish our fuel, when we don’t accept this in ourselves and relax into it, when we continually nag ourselves to be different,  we’re more likely to feel the world is a hostile place and retreat further-  not replenishing our energy,
not accessing our passions and not able to share them with the world.

And then it hit me.  I bet extroverts experience the same thing in an opposite package!  I’m guessing that when an extrovert doesn’t interact and surround themselves with different people and ideas and energies, they are less able to reach inward and access their own passions and muses. (extroverts- can you confirm this?)   So the most wonderful thing about being an introvert- or an extrovert- is simply in knowing who you are, what fills you up, how to access your highest self and share it with the world.  It looks different for introverts and extroverts, but ultimately it’s what allows each of us to thrive.  And how freakin’ cool is that?

Until next time- wishing you the space to be exactly who you are,

Lesley

May 6, 2011

The best (kind and loving) butt-kicking ever

Just a quick post and update, not even a photo as I’m transitioning to a a new computer and don’t have access to all of my files.  I’m also in the process of creating a new website and will be moving this blog there when it’s ready- whenever that may be.  Not rushing the process but letting it flow.  But I do miss posting here and your comments! So this will be an exercise in imperfection (thanks to my friend Lorraine’s coaching!) and just putting my thoughts out there.  Much love to all…      Lesley                                                                                                                   

Earlier this week I received a much needed (though I wasn’t aware of it at the time) and appreciated virtual butt-kicking from the amazing and insightful Martha Beck.  You see, I showed up to our class thinking I was having a pretty excellent day- but had submitted a few questions in my homework regarding rewards, as outlined in her book The Four Day Win.  Rewards just aren’t my thing.  I do things I love all the time and don’t make them dependent on doing other things first.   In the course of our conversation, Martha asked me how I would rate my day, the day I was feeling quite good about, on my body compass which is a measure of how my body is feeling about any subject  on a scale of -10 to +10, 0 being neutral.  Looking at my plans for the rest of the day and thinking “yeah, this is a pretty darned good day” I rated it a +6.   I was quite surprised to be told (kindly and lovingly)  that  a life lived at +6 is not a life fully lived- though come to think of it, I think her actual word was “pathetic”.  I was advised that if my life isn’t rating a +10, it’s time to make some changes.  Not only that, but that as a coach I have a sacred commitment to live my life at +10- that living in pure joy is what will most fully expand my ability to help others and be a force of change in the world.

Really?  My life is supposed to be totally, amazingly, absolutely freakin’ great? It’s not only okay to want that, but it’s my sacred duty?  Now wait.  I seem to remember believing this at some point in the past.  I was right?  Because a while ago I gave up that belief.   I got in the habit of looking for answers outside of myself and was surprised that I wasn’t finding them.  My life began losing it’s sparkle and I lost touch with the inner voice that once gave me hope.  Earlier this week, I thought that I had already fully regained connection with that inner voice.  I was able to rate an average day as a +6.  It was a vast improvement from the days in years past when I was lucky for my day to rate a +2 and they more often rated on the negative scale . So on one hand I was feeling slightly defensive, like “hey, I’m really doing so much better!” but on the other hand, hearing that it’s  essential to follow my deepest desires, dreams and joys on a consistent, moment to moment basis was a relief.  There was a part of me simply waiting for permission to allow myself that much happiness.  The message that +6 isn’t sufficient for a life fully embraced opened up a door holding back so much of what I love (including writing and helping others connect to their own inner voices and truth) – things I’ve held back with my own unexamined assumptions.

So I ask you- how is your day rating?  What passions and joys are you not allowing into your life?  Why?  What would it take to live a life turned all the way up to +10?  What can you do right now?  Go do it… here’s your permission slip if you need one (but go ahead and sneak out if that feels better) .  The world is waiting for you.

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